Being a best friend entails being there through the thick and thin, being there when they have a significant other and when they don't, thinking up thoughtful things to do when their birthdays roll around, doing favors when needed, etc, etc, etc... That shit takes a lot of time and effort! I only have so many hours in a day and I gotta sleep and eat and work and exercise and shit too! (Ok, so I take super shits but that's besides the point.)
Then there are the regular friends who also have birthdays annually and who also holler every now and then to catch up over dinner or lunch or afternoon tea and who also ask for favors. Sometimes I go out cause I feel obligated to, even if I'm really tired.
And then, there are the friends who don't even live in the same city (or the same country). They visit, which is great and all, but then that means playing tour guide and/or being in charge of making sure that their trip is a great and memorable one. Some of these were once my best friends so I feel guilty that I don't keep in touch more, but seriously, who has time to KIT with people who aren't even on the same continent?
Don't get me wrong, I love all my friends and I'm happy to be there for them. Half the things I do, I bring on myself, but sometimes it's just tiring. That's all I'm trying to say. Being a good friend sure ain't easy.
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oh no! i hope you dont mean that about me! dont worry mimi, i got a good guidebook to keep me busy in taiwan! all i ask of you is to 1 - pick me up, and 2, occassionally have dinner with me, oh and 3 house me too!
ok! iw as thinking about it over the shower, and you dont need to pick me up! i realized how busy you were and i know that the airport is a good hour away, and i can manage to get to your place! i dont want to stress you out! you do seem like you need a good meal though, and you can count on me for that! ( what are your days off though? if you wanted to hang out, because i made some arrangements for things i was going to do by myself, and things i was going to do with my co workers sisters, so let me know! )
girl, don't worry. this post was made with no one in particular in mind. i dunno why i even started thinking about this...maybe it's the weather. makes me lazy and a hermit. and yeah, i wanna hang out when i can. yeah?
you'll be sad to know though ive become quite a hermit, but i'll get you drunk in your honor. mind you, i said, you drunk.
Ok, so I take super shits but that's besides the point. --- hahaha
word.
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word to being a good friend, to the entire entry. not only to taking super shits. hahaha
just had to clear that up. hahaha
wth post was this. i didn't know till jeanne told me. she was laughing at it cause we both thought you were talking about someone. then reading it made me sad. we haven't really KIT but i know its hard with a job, life, sleep, eating, taking many trips to the toilet and a moment to breathe. i know, i don't remember you planning these birthdays for me. how sad. you have too many best friends these days. so much that i wish you were here so i can tell you and want to know what's going on in your life. there's a rumor here that you have a bf?? whats going on with that?? hope all is well. and people here miss you alot. always. one of the those friends that live on another continent. =p
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